Found an article yesterday that read as follows :
A man with dreams needs a woman with vision. Her perspective, faith and support will change his mind set. If she doesn’t challenge you, then she’s no good for you. Men who want to stay ordinary will tell you not to have expectations of them. Men who want to be great will expect you to push them, pray with them and intellectually invest in their dreams so it manifests into reality.
I have been fortunate to have met such couples and even more fortunate to have been raised by such a couple. My mother has been a great role model of how to share and be an equal partner to your husband. She has shared everything, the happiness, sadness and all the responsibilities that came with the marriage. And my father has also appreciated her efforts. In fact he has been an advocate of treating wife as a partner and rely on her knowledge and instincts. Inter-caste marriage in the 80s must have been so difficult where the whole society, even your own parents don’t support you wholeheartedly. It takes constant work in your relationship with your spouse and the families to grow a bond. And I am proud of my parents to have worked hard together to bring us up.
Its rare to see such understanding today. I will always strive this kind of woman, who will stand by her man come what may. Risk together, fail together and grow together. Because thats how diamonds are made.
Most of todays men in their 30s are well-matured and responsible. They are ambitious and career oriented. But they seem to have built up a huge wall. They have been betrayed by women who priorized themselves over their partners needs. Prioritizing oneself is not bad until you give false hopes of being together forever and then leave at slightest hint of bad weather without a single thought about your partner. These women leave good men in such a bad state that they no longer trust anyone else. These men generalize all women to be gold diggers or problem creators. By the time they are matured to let someone into their lives, they have prejudice which does not let them love or trust open heartedly. They become “practical” and “logical”. Love does not exist and is viewed as waste.
Thats where women, who genuinely want to love unconditionally, struggle in rewiring the single threaded brains of men. Anything they do is perceived as a trick or a trap. Women should definitely try to re-wire but I feel it should be unto a certain limit. Its not the responsibility of these women to unclear the prejudice. Because these women should also realize that they deserve the same love, respect and trust as they are ready to give in. They should not waste their patience with men who cannot appreciate their efforts.
It seems our generation is struggling in the midst of having only a practical and logical attitude towards life. We have lost our abilities to love without conditions and trust open heartedly. Balance is the key to any relationship!
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